Posted by elizabeth31 on October 27, 2009, at 11:17:23
In reply to Only get along with women, posted by Leo Brazil on October 27, 2009, at 5:08:02
hi! i just wanted to point out how totally different men and women truly are and that I think its normal to seek out and possibly prefer the warm, loving, compassionate, friendly company of women:) . The communication styles and the enviornmental social norms probably have a lot to do with what you're mentioning, so assuming these problems you described are limited only to when you're at work and you're fine outside of that setting, then maybe it could help you by seeing that its a situtational problem instead of blaming yourself for these thoughts. I think it might be helpful for you to figure out whether its really the men that treat you differently than women treat you at work or perhaps its your perception of them and how you think they think of you thats causing some of the problems. you could try to objectively set up an eperiment sometime and ask both a man and woman something and try to look at the results...they might suprise you...women can be cold and distant and might 'ignore you' just as you said the men do at work--the main point i'm suggesting is for you to identify your own thoughts/feelings about what you bring to a situation, since ultimately you can only change yourself! sorry this is long and rambling...hope that made sense!
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