Posted by Deneb on October 26, 2009, at 15:34:53
In reply to Trust and Responsibility, posted by MKS on October 26, 2009, at 15:17:29
Hello MKS
Welcome back to Babble. I'm glad you're reaching out again.
I understand about the inertia. I have tons of inertia. I am 27 and still living with my parents and still trying to get my degree. It's hard to get out there and live life once you have stopped participating. I think you're being too hard on yourself. It's not parasitic to need some help sometimes. That's what family and friends are for. You can pay it forward and help others if you feel guilty. Everyone needs a little help some of the time.
When you say you use the inertia to get away as far as possible from the things that are bothering you, do you mean that you avoid the issues? That's what I tend to do. That is my major flaw actually, the avoidance. We have to learn to face problems head on.
I agree that living the life of a hermit is not sustainable for most people. I always used to think I was hermit and didn't need friends until I found Babble. Now I realize I value the relationships I have here a lot.
It's good to know you have a team of people working to help you. Sorry about your trust issues. It is understandable. It takes time to build trust. I hope you find a therapist who is able to help you.
I think volunteering at the cat shelter is a very good idea. Cats don't judge you and you can practice being open with cats. They also need you and it would probably make you feel like you are contributing to a good cause. I hope you do volunteer.
I think most people are afraid of putting themselves out there and are afraid of getting hurt. You're not alone. Perhaps you can just take baby steps and show your vulnurable side a little bit at a time.
Deneb
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