Posted by jane d on October 14, 2009, at 3:03:09
In reply to i don't like women therapists-whats wrong with me?, posted by elizabeth31 on October 10, 2009, at 23:08:35
Would you refuse to hire a woman or recommend one to someone else on the grounds that you think all women just talk about lipstick? If not then I don't think it's discriminating. You are entitled to someone you are comfortable with as a therapist - whatever your reasons.
I'm also not convinced you should force yourself to see a woman unless you think that dealing with women is your biggest problem. I'm the opposite of you. I wouldn't be happy with a male therapist. Is this an "issue"? Sure. Is it anywhere close to being one of my most important "issues"? Absolutely not. Maybe if I had everything else under control I might decide to work on that with a male therapist. Until then I want to work on uncomfortable things such as life and work with someone whose very presence doesn't make me uncomfortable.
Actually I can't see working on being comfortable with a male therapist either on the assumption that it would generalize to other men. I'm not sure I believe that your relationship with your therapist necessarily reflects any greater reality than your relationship with your therapist. And relating to a therapist is only supposed to be a means to an end. Blasphemy, I know.
Jane,
who would call the paramedics if her female therapist ever started talking about purses and lipstick.
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