Posted by antigua3 on October 12, 2009, at 12:25:49
In reply to i don't like women therapists-whats wrong with me?, posted by elizabeth31 on October 10, 2009, at 23:08:35
I've thought about this for a couple days before posting.
Yes, I do think you should try a female T. I told my male psychiatrist right off the bat, even before I knew him, that I didn't work well with male authority figures, I didn't like him already, etc. It helped me to let him know.
But I went to him because I'd been working with a female T for years and hadn't been able to really deal with my male issues w/her. She agreed that I needed a male T to work through issues I had with my father. So my situation is maybe the reverse of yours.
IMO, you may be over generalizing about female Ts. Mine is friendly, but it's certainly not girl chat for 60 minutes. She is the good mother I never had, and she has taught me how to be a good mother, too.
I worry, too, that if you don't get this kind of help, it may affect how you treat your own female patients, and that would be... I don't know what, but it may be a problem. Female patients deserve equal treatment.
I say all this kindly. I can't remember if it's left brain or right brain! but I am more male-oriented in my thinking. That's another reason why I'm so grateful to have my female T. She brings something very special to the therapy, and you may be surprised at what you might discover about yourself if you had a good female T who gave you a chance to explore that part of yourself.
antigua
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