Posted by onceupon on October 5, 2009, at 23:12:50
In reply to attachment to parents, posted by deerock on October 4, 2009, at 19:49:26
Hi deerock,
I don't know your full situation, but what you wrote reminded me of the "geographic cure" that people with problems with alcohol and drugs talk about. That is, that moving away can sometimes be the only way out of a badly entangled situation. It sounds like you've come to some important realizations about yourself and your family. Being a grad student myself, I know that moving in the middle can be a real pain or a perfect possibility, depending on the nature of your program and the flexibility of your advisor.
What do you imagine it would be like to move away? Could your parents still influence you from miles away? I know mine did - not through physical influence - but through the beliefs they had instilled in me from such a young age, even when I had moved 1000 miles away.
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