Posted by floatingbridge on September 13, 2009, at 17:43:52
In reply to Any good books on parenting?, posted by floatingbridge on September 7, 2009, at 13:58:45
Thank you, everyone, for your thoughtful responses. I know I'm not the only parent on the board, so I appreciate being able to share and be understood and encouraged.
School started up last week--my son is in his second year of kindergarten at a Waldorf School. (He's not old enough to move on to first grade yet.) I've been watching him interact with his friends, peers, adults and children of variuos ages. I have to say, I have been really impressed with him--amazed really. So confident, out-going, and developing, what seems to me, a real (not false) empathy for others and the world. So I realize I haven't 'broken' him somehow. The more I've realized in therapy how enmeshed I am with my mother, I have also realized, wow, that I overly identify with my son. I've been working on giving him 'space' and practicing see him--and maybe, to the best of my abilities, I had been attempting to do this all along. Doesn't this sound optimistic? (Ha!) I'm sure triggers will come and go around and around this issue.
Thank you all for your kindness,
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