Posted by floatingbridge on September 8, 2009, at 23:47:45
In reply to Re: Any good books on parenting?, posted by onceupon on September 8, 2009, at 22:20:44
Hi Onceuponatime,
Thanks for asking about some of the issues I am dealing with.
I was raised by a depressed, narcissistic (not NPD) mother and a raging, illogical, though not alcoholic father. Both my parents loved me, but not in the ways I needed. I do not, I think, abuse my child--he seems happy, outgoing, energetic, curious, smart, confident. My terror is that I sometimes I don't know how to deal with his feelings (feelings I was never allowed to express). I do not feel competent as a mother. Today was a very good day--we have many good days and good times. But I am haunted by my mother and of not being a 'good enough' parent. My husband, my therapist, and others say that I am a good-enough mother. But I cannot believe them. I have too much fear from my own traumas. What seems to come more naturally from other parents, I have to learn by myself. I am a bundle of triggers.
I found this book on Amazon that sounds like what I might be looking for as far as guidance:
thanks for asking and listening,
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