Posted by Nadezda on September 10, 2009, at 15:23:06
In reply to Is your therapist nurturing?, posted by rickjen on September 9, 2009, at 19:22:18
There's a range of overt, spoken "comfortingness" across therapists, Rickjen, as many here will tell you.
But there are also people who have a comforting presence-- whether they say clearly comforting things or not. Simply, they're comforting by the type of presence and attention they bring. Other people don't have this kind of presence, but seem more analytic, or remote. And different people have a need and preference for different degrees of closeness and distance.
Possibly this therapist is more comforting or can be more comforting than you realize; or perhaps you and he simply don't relate that way. if it's very important to you, talk with him about it, and see his response. It's entirely reasonable to expect a kind of comfort in therapy, and to look for that in the T you choose.
Nadezda
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