Posted by Daisym on September 3, 2009, at 1:05:43
In reply to Re: I suppose I'm being silly » Dinah, posted by onceupon on September 2, 2009, at 22:22:36
Wow - this is one of those things I'd really wish I didn't know. Because I'd be having a huge tantrum around this. In fact, I've had this conversation with my therapist and it sort of goes: "how could you hear all my pain and then sit with someone who caused this pain and have empathy for them?" My therapist tells me he chooses not to work with the perpetrators - but of course, this could be just to soothe me.
But I don't think the style a therapist adopts with someone like you would be the same as with someone who was hurting people. There would need to be accountability and strong boundaries. So he *isn't* the same therapist you have.
And since you had to fight to relationship with him, I don't think he "bonds" easily with clients - and can't imagine him feeling fondly for anyone else. But if he is good at helping people stop bad behaviors, then thank goodness he is willing to engage with them.
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