Posted by Nadezda on July 28, 2009, at 16:50:01
In reply to Re: My therapist said no » rskontos, posted by Dinah on July 28, 2009, at 13:14:18
My T falls asleep, or looks as if he's struggling (not entirely successfully) to keep his eyes open-- lots of time. It comes in phases. I know he overbooks himself and tries to do too much-- and that he rarely if ever gets enough sleep or slows down. Once or twice I did feel as if I was also droning on or a bit lost myself-- but that doesn't mean it's okay for him to nod off
I guess sometimes when a T feels a little more comfortable with one P, they 're less vigilant and tense-- and that promotes the sleepiness. Not that it's any more acceptable for that reason.The last time my T semi-fell asleep, I decided that if he did it the next time, I was going to end the session and tell him I wouldn't pay. Which would be a departure for me. But I"m paying him lots of money for his insights and understanding, and if he's semi-conscious, I cant see how he's doing his job.
Sometimes I ask if he's tired. But I do think it's his schedule and not me at all. I'm really glad your T took responsibility-- but do you still feel that it's somehow you? or something you're doing? Other than being someone he feels less guarded with, I'm sure it isn't anything like that. I do think he absolutely has to be awake-- and if he needs 10 cups of coffee and two cokes, then he should take them. You deserve that!
Nadezda
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