Posted by Dinah on July 26, 2009, at 20:42:32
In reply to Re: My therapist said no, posted by friesandcoke on July 26, 2009, at 17:30:38
Well....
To be fair to him, it wasn't said in a negative way, if you mean the comment about my voice being flat and low and hypnotic.
He'd been lying to me for years. He'd say he just had lunch, or he'd been up late, or... Anything but admit that he was bored or that it was me.
I was happy when he was finally honest with me. I find honesty oddly reassuring from him because we have a long and strong relationship. I'd rather he was honest because then I know that my perceptions are accurate, and we can deal with the truth.
I was so proud of him the first time he admitted that sometimes he was bored. Not that he was bored at the time we were speaking of it, but that there were occasional times in our long relationship that he was bored. That seemed so self evident (because really how could he never ever be bored in all that time?) that I was relieved to hear him admit it.
He does like me. And he does care about me. He even loves me, in a therapist sort of way. Those things I know. As much from the things he says to me in anger as the things he says to me with affection. I also irritate him at times. I bore him at times. I frustrate him often. And I very frequently cause him to feel sleepy.
At this point, I just want to do whatever it takes to keep him alert. If a different office can do that, I want the different office.
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