Posted by Nadezda on July 27, 2009, at 10:36:05
In reply to Re: new to therapy, hellos and a question » tetrix, posted by Dinah on July 27, 2009, at 9:38:42
That's a tough question, Tetrix. It really depends a lot on how you tell her and how comfortable she is with herself-- and also what her reasons are for wearing the skirt.
It's a sensitive subject-- but given that it;s therapy, you have every reason and right to tell her, because it's having a real impact on you. I personally would be uncomfortable if I could see my T's underwear (if she were a woman--if it were a man, I'd run for the hills asap) and it really is, as Dinah said, pretty seductive and something she really shouldn't be doing-- Actually, she probably needs some supervision if she's done it more than once, imo.
I also would find it highly distracting-- and disturbing. If you can do it in a normal, neutral and calm tone-- great ; if not, there's still no reason not to tell her. But tone is important in these situations, so I'd at least think out beforehand how I wanted to address it.
I was just wondering, how uncomfortable and what degree of attraction do you feel? I would hope you wouldn't get pulled into too attached a connection through her seductiveness-- attachment is fine-- but not all attachments are healthy.
Nadezda
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