Posted by Dinah on July 27, 2009, at 9:38:42
In reply to Re: new to therapy, hellos and a question, posted by tetrix on July 27, 2009, at 9:26:15
> Thanks... I was wondering that perhaps because of the nature of our relationship ( it is pretty mature and level headed) she feels comfortable enough with me...and perhaps by making a comment about her dressing would jeopardize that.. any thoughts on that?
>Well, in general of course it's more important for you to feel comfortable with her. It isn't the client's job to see to the therapist's comfort. However, I also cherish the fact that my therapist feels comfortable enough to be honest with me on occasion, and I'm careful not to jeopardize something that I consider in my best interests.
However, you aren't this person's only client. If her undies are visible to you they are likely visible to all her clients. Not only is that unintentionally seductive, and not in her client's best interests, but it may not be in her best interests either.
If she's not aware of it, she should be. And while I'd be terribly uncomfortable if someone pointed out that I was exposing myself, I think I'd be less uncomfortable if it came from someone I was comfortable with.
That being said, my therapist has had two split zipper incidents. The first time I told him, and we were both momentarily embarassed. The second time, I let him discover it for himself. I like to think that if he hadn't noticed it by the end of the session, I'd have told him, or called and told him after.
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