Posted by Tabitha on July 13, 2009, at 1:00:39
In reply to Maintaining a contract with therapist, posted by mmealltalk on July 12, 2009, at 17:38:00
Hi,
You say the contract means a loss of unconditional caring. But does it really say anything about caring? I think she most likely will always care about you. I guess I just assume that after working with you so long & so intensely, you'll always have her caring. A person can care very much and still need to set limits. She's not just setting limits on herself here, she's setting limits that protect you from harm, if you abide by them. So that in itself shows caring. I understand it probably feels a bit like blackmail though.Personally I feel safer in relationships if the other person shows that they can set limits to take care of themselves. I don't like it when it happens, but I know it means they will be around longer. People who don't set limits tend to get burnt out and need to exit the relationship.
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