Posted by Dinah on July 3, 2009, at 5:56:25
In reply to Re: Xanax CR is completely overrated, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2009, at 3:36:30
Are you ok?
It belatedly occurred to me that my accepting your assessment that she is no longer helpful might have been unsettling to you since I normally am in favor of working to repair a long term relationship.
I'm not necessarily right you know. The way you wrote about her reminded me a lot of how I felt when my therapist was discombobulated. In fact, he uses that very phrase too. And in him it usually means that he's all upset about stuff in his personal life and is unable to be the sort of therapist I need him to be.
The last time that happened with him, he managed to pull himself together with me even before the crisis had passed. At least enough to be fully present with me. I think it's possible with her too, but she doesn't seem to be accepting the responsibility or being self reflective enough to acknowledge and repair her lack of presence.
But that could be purely projection on my part based on my experiences with my therapist. If it would be more painful to go than to stay, then maybe it isn't yet time.
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