Posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on April 28, 2009, at 14:04:51
In reply to more therapist drama, posted by deerock on April 28, 2009, at 11:54:14
Deerock, don't get stuck thinking in all or nothing, black or what terms--or in terms of catastrophe. There are always more therapists out there, so it's not the end of the world if it doesn't work out with her. If indeed, she has missed two appointments from oversleeping and has not had you signed a HIPAA form before talking to another provider, she has not been behaving professionally or unethically.
But you have to commit to a therapeutic relationship with SOMEBODY.
And you have to ask yourself: why can't you with your therapist on some issues? Your therapist doesn't practice mind control. She won't change you by disagreeing about some sports star. So who cares if she sees Mike Tyson differently?
Did you ever ask her about the axis II dx, and if so, what did she say?
> I was talking to my T yesterday about how much I love Mike Tyson. When she asked why, I said that my feelings for him have to do with what he accomplished as a boxer, how talented he once was and how honest he is about who he is and his limitations as a person. She responded by saying strongly that Mike Tyson always blames other people. I said no, he does not, he constantly berates himself now that he is no longer in the spotlight, about his decisions and choices in the past and in the present. She said ok, he may do that too. After the appointment, I stumbled accross an interview with James Toback who made a movie about Tyson which is due out any day now. Perhaps it is out already.
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> Q. There will be people, I suspect, who'll look at this and say it's an apology for Mike Tyson.
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> A. But his self-recrimination, his prosecution of himself, is nonstop throughout the movie. His notion of himself is not one of endless self-justification. It's one of constant self-recrimination. He's saying by implication that I'm the one who screwed up here. He's not turning it on other people. It's only Don King and Desiree Washington he's hard on.
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> I dont know why my T disagreeing with me bothers me so much. I guess, basically, I am finding proof that her perceptions are not always right on. And if I am trusting her to make me better, or help me get better, I am concerned that she may be skewed in her views, thinking that I have issues that I do not have, leading me to default my perceptions to hers, taking her opinion over my own, and leading me to suffer more than I need to. She has no showed for 2 appointments and told me she was sick and did not hear her alarm go off. She also apologized. This is 2 out of several, so maybe no big deal. Maybe. And then she talked to my psychiatrist without my signing a HIPAA form, simply using my verbal OK to do to. When i asked her why she did that, she simply said What is your concern here, what are you afraid I may do? I did not state this but my concern is that she broke the law and did not own up to it.
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> I will bring these concerns to her.
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> Do you have any thoughts on this?
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