Posted by alexandra_k on April 28, 2009, at 12:50:26
In reply to more therapist drama, posted by deerock on April 28, 2009, at 11:54:14
> I dont know why my T disagreeing with me bothers me so much.
Maybe because you are thinking that there are two and only two options:
1) T is right and you are wrong
2) You are right and T is wrongBut wait, problems either way:
IF 1) Then how can you trust your perceptions in anything? Are they really that ununderstandable? That wrong? How can one go on in life if one is wrong about everything always?
IF 2) Then how can you trust that your therapist is competent to help you? How can one continue to work with her if she really is so misguided / incompetent?
Fortunately, there might be more options that are available...
Another option might be some synthesis... Some respect in which both you and your therapist are correct and some other respect in which both you and your therapist are incorrect. Sometimes a closer approximation to 'the truth of the situation' involves incorporating aspects of multiple perspectives into some kind of transcendent synthesis...
My thought is basically...
'Borderline dilemmas'
Marsha Linehan has some WONDERFUL things to say about this process (which she credits to Hume)
I used to hit upon similar dilemmas about, oh, every 5 minutes.
My ability to synthesize a transcendence is improving... Slowly... Gradually...
There is hope :-)
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