Posted by SLS on April 26, 2009, at 20:17:41
In reply to Re: Pdoc says I am wasting my energy » Deneb, posted by raisinb on April 23, 2009, at 16:56:20
Hi Deneb.
I agree with Raisinb.
Feelings are not a waste of time or energy. Feelings just are. They are the culmination of the biological and historical self as they exist in the moment. You could be no other way than the way you are right now. One productive expenditure of time and energy might be to explore the feelings you have for Robert Hsiung, MD. You might not be able to change feelings, but you can change the thoughts that generate them.
What are the thoughts you have that allow you to continue to have feelings for Dr. Hsiung?
Do you want to continue to have feelings for Dr. Hsiung? If so, that's okay with me.
If one day you come to believe that it is no longer in your best interests to have these feelings for the doctor, you alone must make the decision to change.
I know how good it feels to have romantic feelings for another, even if they are not requited. Passion is intensely rewarding.
When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change... I'm sure you can figure the rest out for yourself.
- Scott
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