Posted by SLS on April 26, 2009, at 9:57:56
In reply to My Therapist is dying..., posted by CharlieGrll on April 25, 2009, at 22:09:10
> Grief upon grief. Panic. My world is upside down and I don't know what to do. He has always been there~ my sane island in a world of chaos. I can't talk to him to work out what to do.
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> So I'm here.
You are not alone in the world. You know that, or you wouldn't be here. It is so sad that you have lost so many people in such a short period of time.If we are lucky, we grieve. I think it is more difficult if we do not allow ourselves to grieve. It causes much confusion.
You really don't have much choice in these matters other than how you deal with them cognitively and emotionally. It would be nice to have help with this. It seems that you don't. Trust your mind. It will automatically pass through the stages of grieving if you allow it to.
For the most part, I see the utility in using a Kubler-Ross type model to understand grief. Kubler-Ross studied people with terminal illnesses. However, the model she came up with seems to be helpful in the understanding of grief in general.
I know this is a rather "cold" post, however, I am sure you will get through this bad time. I have come to lose people who are close to me, most recently my grandmother. I guess I can empathize to some degree how different your world is now compared to the way it was a few months ago. Everything is different. It is scary. It is surreal. It is beyond pain. What happened to your ordinary world? It will never be the same. It seems hopeless now, but you will build upon what is rather than lament what is not. There is still a bright and wonderful world waiting for you to interact with. Isolation in the early stages of grieving is normal.
I am impressed that you reached out so honestly and openly in a forum that you had never posted in before. I think this demonstrates the character of a person who is positive and constructive, and who plays an active role in their growth as a human being.
- Scott
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