Posted by FindingMyDesire on April 22, 2009, at 23:15:57
In reply to Re: Feeling melancholy » seldomseen, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2009, at 18:49:36
> So I'm an unlikeable person who eventually grows on people? That if you really really get to know me, you might grow to find me appealing. But that if you don't, you most definitely won't.
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> That's kind of a melancholy self observation.
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> Yet sadly accurate I fear.Oh Dinah,
I *really* want to respond to this. I'm so very compelled I have to ask myself what just got triggered for me...I say almost the same thing but in reverse. If someone "truly" got to know me they wouldn't like me and *then* I would get rejected for sure...
I guess what I can say is that you are one of the most thoughtful, helpful people on this board.
Then I think of what my T is always telling me about valuing me just for being me and not for what I "do" for others or what "actions" I take.
So, then I will reword my statement.
Dinah,
Based on what I know of your heart and mind from reading what you post on this board, you are totally wonderful and lovable person. Really.Beyond my comments, I can say I hear your melancholiness. (Did I just make that word up?) And it always feels hard to pull myself out of that feeling. I hope that our posts help. So many people here care about you. And you do have such a wonderful relationship with your T.
And then I feel saying that doesn't help...
I just think sometimes sadness or states of melancholy-ish feelings are some of the hardest to shake. It doesn't feel like you can do anything about them until they pass, huh?
Anyway, lots of care and support your way.
FMD
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