Posted by rskontos on April 8, 2009, at 17:48:38
In reply to Re: update--need some feedback » antigua3, posted by raisinb on April 8, 2009, at 14:03:38
Raisinb,
I think she was just plain wrong about what she said. I would venture to say I think often my t cares more about my therapy than I do. I stress about it and worry but currently he is treating me for zero dinero. So that says alot that he cares.
I think she wasn't in her groove so to speak. I don't she considered all aspects of how her telling you what she did would affect you so that is why she consulted. She just plain read the situation and you wrong.
I also think her motivation for telling stemmed from a need she has maybe nothing about you or how you were ready. I think for some unknown reason, and maybe unknown to her, she did this when maybe she thought the relationship need defining. Because isn't that what that statement is meant to do. Define the relationship. So why now?
She should have realized from your past history and your relating it to her that all you dealt with in the past, your siblings etc would make you feel how you felt then and all those past hurts.
I think if you go you must lay it on the line for her. Explain or refresh her memory that you feel pushed out of the nest again.
I also think it was probably obvious "how does it feel when I do this to you" by your reaction. So why that question.
I am not sure from all you've described that she has gotten her game or groove back.
Sounds like she is winging it.
good luck, keep us posted.
rsk
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