Posted by Kath on April 6, 2009, at 20:23:16
In reply to Thanks Everyone - Here's what happened.., posted by Kenya on April 6, 2009, at 13:57:53
> After my T rescheduling 3 different times last week (she was sick), I finally saw her on Saturday. It didn't go so well. She was very critical and kind of mean, actually. She asked me about my pdoc appt, and I told her about it, then she was correcting me because she works at the pdoc's office and he already told her everything I said. I didn't like that much, and I'm horrible with confrontation, so I just slammed shut. I didn't need to start talking about anything because I didn't want to talk to her at all anymore. I'll start a new post about this because there are some weird things she did that I don't think are normal.
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> Thank you all again for your help. I made a list of all your suggestions and it will be coming with me to my sessions from now on!
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> I think I'm going to like it here on Babble. You guys are awesome.
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> ~ KenyaHi & welcome Kenya.
I am appalled that your pdoc repeated what you said. I haven't read any replies to your initial post, but I thought that what goes on between doc & patient is confidential except when T might 'debrief' with his/her supervisor!
I don't like the "feel" of this therapist at ALL. She doesn't sound kind. I would not feel 'safe' with her at all.
I don't see why she couldn't kindly say, 'well this is your therapy & I want it to be about you...is there anything that you'd like to talk about, or have my input about?' or something like that.
I have started therapy sessions all different kinds of ways depending on how I'm feeling:
- babbling on & on about a whole bunch of things that have happened in no particular order; sometimes interrupting myself- telling about something that is bothering me - telling about the event in great detail - even 'he said.... & then I said.... & then he said.... & then I felt really mad & said..."
- some of the very best sessions seem to just 'happen' on days when I go & don't have anything particular to deal with! This has happened often.
To me, gentle kindness is very important. I'm looking forward to your post where you tell about things that just don't seem right to you.
I think that just because someone is a therapist (or pdoc, or medical doc, or landscaper, or whatever) - it doesn't mean that they are necessarily a good 'fit' for us.
On the other hand, I once went to a therapist who I did NOT like. He was very clinical & sort of cold - in a detached way. But he was not unkind, and I did learn some good things from him.
He knew before I had a clue, that my 'artistic' side was crying to be let free!!! He recommended "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron way before I began doing pottery. I looked at it in the store & thought 'no way this is for me'....yet a few years later, I was doing pottery & subsequently got the book & it certainly WAS for me!! I saw him about 5 years later in Chapters & went up to him & told him that he knew before I did, that I was an artist! He was sort of taken aback & laughed!
Sorry to get 'babbling' but I guess I have permission, since it IS called PsychoBabble LOL
Anyway, I'm glad you're 'here'.
:-)) Kath
PS - there'd also be nothing wrong with once you're in the office to say, "Ya know I said I was fine & how were you, but actually, I'm feeling (whatever)"
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