Posted by SLS on April 5, 2009, at 7:03:24
In reply to Generosity of my T., posted by 10derHeart on April 3, 2009, at 21:01:58
10derHeart, are you entering new therapeutic territory? Perhaps your therapist didn't want to leave any "door knob" issues unattended at a critical juncture in your treatment. Maybe he genuinely likes your company. It would be hard not to, I imagine. Whichever the case may be, your T is indeed generous. It sounds like he cares about you.
I consider myself lucky to have a therapist that is a good match for me. I have had some that are not such good matches, but again, I have been fortunate that I was able to glean a great deal of knowledge about myself and make changes that I think are positive and constructive. "Take the best and forget the rest". My goal is to learn and practice ways of being that resonate well with my core. It is up to me to decide how hard to work. It is also up to me to recognize when my therapist is not helping me. That can be very difficult to discern, as it is the premise that there are things about us that we know are not productive that must be changed. Perhaps we don't yet fully appreciate the changes that need to be made, such that we try to internalize that which we feel we are not. We can be fooled into trying to think like our therapists while all the time ignoring what it feels like to be us. This type of relationship is not a good match for me. I want to come away from a session feeling like me, troubled or not.
I think a good therapist helps us to discover who and what we are within our own unique state of health, rather than define what it is that we should be in order to fit a societal norm. I am lucky that my therapist allows me this freedom.
- Scott
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