Posted by 10derHeart on April 3, 2009, at 21:01:58
This morning I had a scheduled session on the phone with my T. He's one to give a full 55 minutes, for me anyway, more like 60 minutes in reality. But when there was less than 5 minutes left, we kept talking and talking, even though I know I said a couple times, "we're almost done...." or "...and I know you have to go now...." But, instead of doing the wrap up thing so I can be calm[er] and detach from the closeness of the call (hard - hate it) we just talked some more. Finally, after almost 10 minutes over, I asked what was going on with his next client. He said, "well, the light isn't on so I just figured, why stop...?' [They use a light system where you turn on the switch by your T's name in the waiting room to let the T. know the person is there] After I checked that this wasn't anyone new, who might be so nervous or (somehow) ignoring the LARGE sign that tells you to use the light, and he said, "no, no, this person definitely would use the light so I know they aren't here," we kept talking for another 13 minutes!
I had 1 hour and 23 minutes, just because he is so kind and generous of spirit, and with his precious time. And it's not like he had nothing to do with unexpected free time, as I know he had filing and calls to return, and other stuff from a previous conversation....he just did it "because."
He is so wonderful to me, I just can't believe it sometimes. Like Dinah said, at certain times, under just the "right" circumstances, when he is good, he is very, very good.
I adore my T. I have to believe even with the pain of not seeing him in person, the limitations of the phone, and sessions being too infrequent (not his fault - my finances won't allow as many sessions as I used to have and still want) - and whatever else - he is still the very best T. for me - period.
Well, that's all. I just had to tell someone.
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