Posted by B2chica on March 31, 2009, at 10:45:26
In reply to First 3 words in a session?, posted by Kenya on March 30, 2009, at 11:34:00
hi kenya and welcome.
there are a bunch of great folks here to help out regarding thearpy.i'm not sure how long you've been in therapy, i'm guessing not that long.
but when i first started, i got some great advice from someone here. he told me that there are three stages when you go to therapy:
1.you talk about what you want to talk about
2.you talk about what you dont want to talk about
3.you talk about what you didn't even know was inside.each stage goes at it's own pace and only you will know when you're ready to move on.
until then sometimes things are just hard to say. maybe try writing them down and either reading them in session or having T read them.
talk about what has upset you within the last week, people, situations, work, family etc.and when i would have something that was hard to get out. sometimes that's exactly what i would talk about. tell T you have something you want to talk about but cant get it out. sometimes talking about why its hard to talk about can be just as helpful as talking about it. and then next time, maybe you can get it out.
i hope some of this helps or encourages you.
but i think the main thing about therapy is its a HUGE level of trust, something most people in therapy DONT have a lot of. so its hard to talk about stuff with someone you dont know that well. first build the relationship. then deal with what you can together.Best Wishes!
b2c.
p.s. starting off:this week i got so upset when....
this week i felt bad about...
this week i'm scared about...
this week ______made me feel hurt, and how.and if it's easier, start of with the GOOD things that happened that week. Therapy doesn't have to be ALL about bad stuff!
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