Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 25, 2009, at 8:35:17
In reply to Child neglect, posted by yellowbird01 on March 24, 2009, at 18:52:16
(((Yellowbird))): Yes, obviously you were abused as a child (I was also, as a child)...sadly, it is so common.
The best book I ever read on the subject of childhood and overcoming the horror: The Transcendent Child by ...gosh, I am sorry just had a blank slate in my mind...I will come back and give you the author.
I consider myself a "transcendent child"---I overcame (and thrived) from a childhood of verbal and physical abuse (molested by a neighbor), had my hand held over an open fire by another drunken neighbor, extreme poverty (no phone, car, refrigerator, bathtub, etc.)....120-year old tenement house with cockroaches and rats and never knew my father; snow which came in thru a crack in the wall.
I joined the army right out of high school (thank God for the army), and then married the original abuer (mother) and tried to fix the past.
31 years of abuse and then divorce, and then experiencing spiritual abuse; my church of 31 years voting me out of membership, with my name up on a big screen, followed by the words: "Conduct Unbecoming a Child of God.
www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com was the result of this debacle.
I have heard the book: The Courage to Heal is an excellent book, but have not read it.
The book I recommend to everyone on the whole planet: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans
Your thoughts and feelings are not right or wrong, they just are....and should be processed and honored.
1 in 3 women are being abused; those are such staggering statistics....if we are abused as children, we are more than likely to marry an abuser.....then it takes forever to figure out what we have done.
Hugs and Love, Sassy
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