Posted by DAisym on March 6, 2009, at 20:14:04
In reply to Re: long term therapy, posted by yellowbird01 on March 6, 2009, at 11:12:02
I've been in therapy almost 6 years (I think.) Sometimes it is total crisis management and dealing with immediate stressors. But less and less we do that and more and more we focus on the things that brought on the depression, the history of abuse and silence and my attachment needs.
If I hadn't been through this process, I'd never be able to write or believe any of this. Because I am the last person anyone would suspect of being so fragile in my inner world. But these issues did not surface until year 2 or perhaps even 3 and we couldn't work on them until much later. It would send me into a tail spin. Relationship issues were/are front and center - beginning with the therapy relationship.
Often my goals don't match my therapist's goals. He would like me to be less harsh with myself around my needs or my inability to "deal" with everything going on. I'd like to regain those concrete outer walls that kept this inner world silent and contained. We both move to the middle a lot in these discussions.
I do think that therapy can keep you stuff opened up - so it feels like you are over-analyzing things or always thinking about it. It is important to learn how to take a break from therapy, including the therapy that goes on in your head. Sometimes less time spent thinking about it, allows you to consolidate gains or really notice how you are changing.
It is all really individual I think. And some what dictated by how your therapist works. But I agree - talk to her. Seems like a good discussion to have.
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