Posted by Dinah on March 5, 2009, at 7:46:36
In reply to soul mates, posted by garnet71 on March 5, 2009, at 2:21:46
I'm not sure I believe in soul mates. I've never experienced such a thing. Well, except maybe with a little 2.75 pound dog with big eyes and a fierce determination to love me from the time she tottered away from her mother's side.
I'm not sure I've ever seen it either. Maybe my grandma and grandpa. Their courtship story was beautiful, and grandpa always looked at grandma like she was the most beautiful thing he'd ever seen (she actually looked like me, more or less). But I don't know that I saw Grandma looking at Grandpa that way. Maybe I missed it.
My husband and I joked we were going to do our wedding dance to Weird Al's song.
"Oh I couldnt live a single day without you,
Actually on second thought, well I suppose I could.
Anyway, what I'm tryin' to say is honey you're the greatest,
Well at any rate, I guess you're pretty good.
Now it seems to me, I'm really deeply lucky,
I know I probably couldn't ask for too much more,
I honestly can say you're an above average lady,
You're almost just what I've been looking for.[Chorus]
You're sort of everything I ever wanted,
You're not perfect, but I love you anyhow.
You're the woman that I've always dreamed of,
Well not really, but you're good enough for now.You're pretty close to what I've always hoped for,
That's why my love for you is fairly strong,
And I swear, I'm never gonna leave you darlin',
At least 'till something better comes along.Cuz you're sort of everything I ever wanted,
You're not perfect, but I love you anyhow.
You're the woman that I've always dreamed of,
Well not really, but you're good enough for now."If it hadn't said the "for now" part, we likely would have. He may be essential to my life and happiness now, but it's because of what we've been through together and built together, not because of any mystic connection, I don't think.
Not to say we aren't a good match. We are. We have complementary strengths and weaknesses, and even the things that drive me nuts are the things I like most about him, in a different situation.
I'd probably say the same thing about my therapist.
My son is different of course. Children are.
The little dog? The love of my life? My happiness? That was a bit mystic in my experience of her. But since if she had never picked me and bonded to me and made me feel like no one in the world had ever loved me like she did, I would likely haven't have felt any special connection beyond that she was cute as a bug.
The most romantic scene I've ever seen in a movie was in "Punchline". Sally Field comes home with the worst perm ever, and she knew it. She looked miserable and about to cry. Dan Goodman looked at her, and you could see that he thought so too and would likely have said something to her, if she hadn't looked so upset. But instead he, then their kids, swept in on her telling her how beautiful she looked, and looking like in a way, in their eyes, she was.
Makes me cry everytime. Seems so much nicer than a soulmate to me.
But perhaps it's something lacking in me. I'm the least romantic person alive.
poster:Dinah
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