Posted by SLS on March 5, 2009, at 6:42:23
In reply to soul mates, posted by garnet71 on March 5, 2009, at 2:21:46
That's an interesting take on things.
It does not reflect the bliss I felt when I had found a soul mate. The relationship brought out the best in me and helped me to grow without much pain. That was me. On her part, it is very likely that she did experience some of the things that are described in the piece you cited. I think that is why she could not commit. She had, in her mind, lost control of herself. She was so deeply in love, the emotional experience was beyond her comfort level. I think another part of it was that her mother had been active in the feminist movement in the 1960's. She was taught by her mother never to give up her independence. Approach-avoidance. At some point, I decided that I would no longer be part of her emotional roller-coaster. I left her, even though I was still in love with her. I knew I would get over it. I did. It was the healthy thing for me to do.
- Scott
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