Posted by Annierose on March 3, 2009, at 17:28:27
In reply to Awkward!, posted by Annierose on March 3, 2009, at 12:04:03
It's so funny that none of the punctuation appeared in my original e-mail -- like quotes and apostrophe's. How does that stuff happen in cyber space?
Anyway - THANKS for everyone's kind support.
To answer a few questions: yes, my therapist has a solo private practice. The man was standing, almost leaning, on her office door. If they were talking by the elevators I would not have been so uncomfortable. It was the fact that I would have to ask him to "MOVE now please".
Also - she could have gestured with her body language to move towards the middle or down the hallway.
I agree that I felt like she was placing blame on me for feeling upset. I did bring that up to her and she explained, rather poorly IMO, that when she discusses my uncomfortable feelings in any given situation, I tend to feel defensive. (Yes, that is true.) When, in fact, she claims, she is trying to open up the conversation on said feeling. But I think she misses an important step, as in, "I'm sorry you encountered that awkward situation this morning." WOW --- if only she would have said "I'm sorry" I think I would have felt more understood.
It reminds me of a fight we had YEARS ago. I wanted an apology and she was firm that "I didn't do anything wrong." I gave her the example of a mother watching her child ride a bicycle that tripped and scrapped their knee. The mother did not do anything "wrong" but she is there to comfort her child and say, "I'm so sorry you got hurt."
Witti - I have such an idealic image of your therapist's house, garden and town --- right out of a romantic English novel. I want to have a cup of tea with cake at that shoppe listening to the customers conversations w/their gorgeous accents. Yes, I can imagine how awkward that would be walking into your safe hang-out and seeing your therapist enjoying the same place (with his wife no less). Is his wife pretty? kind?
Thanks for everyone's support. I smiled inside knowing I'm not alone in feeling awkward in this.
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