Posted by wittgensteinz on March 3, 2009, at 13:33:38
In reply to Awkward!, posted by Annierose on March 3, 2009, at 12:04:03
Yes, I know why this felt so awkward and yes, I agree your T didn't appreciate how it would make you feel. I don't know what I would have done - I think I would have kept myself out of the way until he was gone. I'd have felt uncomfortable breaking up their conversation and walking past him.
There have been a couple of similarly awkward incidences with my T in the last few weeks. On one occasion I was very early for the appointment so I went to the local shops near where he lives. There's a small chocolate shop there where you can get coffee and cake. I go in and he's sitting there with his wife drinking coffee. I wanted to run out of the shop. Luckily they were just on their way out - of course they both walk past me and say "hello", a little awkwardly. That place was a 'safe' place for me to wait if I was ever too early (he doesn't really have a waiting room because he runs his practice from his house). The other incident was when I was delayed - delayed train - and I arrive at the same moment his wife is returning with all her shopping. So she's standing in front of the front door with several bags and I'm hovering at the end of the garden path waiting until I can get past to ring the bell. Eventually I squeeze past and she says hello and that normally 'H' is seeing someone at this time, so I explain that that should be me but I'm late... I wish I could have disappeared into a hole! Even yesterday when I came out of his office there was a friend or colleague of his who was standing in the hallway waiting to see him. There's something different between a big office and a waiting room and bumping into people in your analyst's front hallway. It just makes me feel deadly awkward to meet his wife and friends. I want those things to be kept separate.
After these things have happened I'll usually say something and he'll say "well these things happen - it's nothing" - which doesn't really give room for the feelings I really have about it.
Sorry I've gone off on a tangent. Annie, does your T have her own private office or is the office used by more Ts? Do you ever have to sit in a waiting room with other clients?
Witti
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