Posted by Kath on February 23, 2009, at 17:30:44
In reply to I am hopeless, helpless, and want to die., posted by Looney Tunes on February 23, 2009, at 15:31:02
So very sorry that T - actuall 't' - doesn't deserve a capital letter!!!
Sorry that t behaved in such an unprofessional and unskilled and harmful, hurtful way with you.
Right now, when you're right in the intensity of these feelings, why not make a 'requirements' list for if you ever are considering having a T (WITH a capital) in the future?
What exactly you would require in a T before deciding to 'hire' one.
Then you can actually mail it or email it to him or her & see if she or he thinks they'd be a good 'fit'. Or take it to the first meeting.
We get 'estimates' & outlines of details of work from people who are going to be working on our roofs, or our cars, etc. WE are way more important than those things!
There are some wonderful therapists. You deserve a nurturing, skilled, kind, caring therapist. I hope that someday you will have one.
I also understand how it could be VERY difficult to even consider it.
And I'm sorry that you miss t. With your background, I suspect you put a lot of hope into the relationship helping you to heal. I'm really sorry for your crummy experiences with therapists.
((you)) Kath
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