Posted by raisinb on February 20, 2009, at 11:44:56
In reply to Worse than ever, posted by TherapyGirl on February 20, 2009, at 6:40:39
TG,
I am so sorry this is happening right now. I agree with the other posters--please don't blame yourself or your supposedly "unchangeable" qualities. You are neither unlovable nor unsuited for relationships--your long-term T relationship and your other ones (AND you on Babble!) prove that.The exact same thing happened to me about four years ago. A friend, very, very close and special to me, "dumped" me because of some things I'd done and said on a trip we took together. They were a lot worse (it sounds) than what you've said. It involved a good deal of transference on my part--issues I wouldn't work through until I met my current therapist (my friend was a therapist, too).
Several months later, I sent her an email apologizing, wishing her well, and telling her how important she'd been to me. She was upset about the rupture, too, and we ended up being friends again.
I wanted to let you know that this situation isn't necessarily permanent, even though it feels awful right now.
Please take care. ((((TG))))
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