Posted by workinprogress on February 4, 2009, at 0:14:48
In reply to And I thought nothing would make me quit, posted by Dinah on February 3, 2009, at 12:34:39
Dinah-
I may very well be out of line in my simplicity here. But, from everything you've said about this man, your relationship, and all that you've been through... I just cannot imagine that this couldn't be fixed with a simple conversation. It seems to me, that given all of that he'd be able to hear and be sensitive to the fact that this was extremely bothersome to you. And from all you've said, I have to believe that he values you so much more than whatever his intention is with the scent.
I totally get how it's "thrown you for a loop". And I get how it would freak you out.. this conflict between he and your comfort. But, I dunno, seems something to look at in terms of what's behind it. Why it wasn't just a simple conversation (seems you've confronted him on other things, sometimes bigger). What keeps this from being a simple discussion of your needs and instead moves it to the possiblity of termination.
I don't know. And I'm just throwing all of this out there. Just some thoughts... because it just isn't all matching up for me. Not to say your concern isn't valid certainly, just wondering why not take it to him first, before you get to "worst case"?
I certainly hope you two get to talk about it and work it out...
(((((((Dinah)))))))
xo
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