Posted by antigua3 on January 23, 2009, at 20:33:13
In reply to Re: Favorite child » antigua3, posted by Sigismund on January 23, 2009, at 15:01:31
Great question, and I was expecting it.
I don't know really what she thinks anymore. She announced recently at a family dinner party that she is her father's favorite. (Huh? My husband agreed w/her, but says it was all in fun play, but I think she was serious.) Why has this all come up now? Very interesting. It has all come about kind of separately, but there must be a connection.
My daughter feels like she can't compete w/her older brother--he's smarter than she is, she says, and she recently has come to the misbegotten conclusion that her younger brother is even smarter than she is. Not true at all.
We've discussed it a million times--she has an emotional intelligence that far surpasses her older brother; she's a much more well-rounded person than his obsessive nature will ever allow. She plays sports and does really well, so she has her own things to be proud of. She does really well at school, but doesn't feel she can't match her older brother, and that's just a fact. Learning comes easily too him w/o much effort while she has to work very hard.
But that's off the track. My pdoc is not aware of this general situation; he was reacting based upon a conversation that included a discussion of my two older children.
The party line around here is that the oldest is my favorite because he's the oldest; my daughter is my favorite because she's my only daughter; and the youngest is my favorite because he's the youngest.
antigua, who thinks maybe this belongs on parenting, but this whole thing was inspired by my pdoc so pls don't move it.
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