Posted by Dinah on January 22, 2009, at 22:34:12
In reply to Re: I want my therapist to be less careful » DAisym, posted by DAisym on January 22, 2009, at 22:21:07
I agree. He's definitely never going to become blunt or confrontational. He *is* a nice guy. He doesn't even say bad stuff about other people (at least not in my hearing).
But I know that in the past I've been touchy about some things. And maybe there is one that I'm still touchy about, and I suppose I could mention that one. And he has modified his style in the past so that, in his words, he presents things in a way that I can hear it. Which basically means he avoided saying things that would bog us down in arguments for a year or two. But the thing is that now I hear the caring and affection in his voice, which makes things sound totally different.
I'm still not ok with talking about growing up. Or termination. Ok, that's two rather than one.
But everything else would be ok.
The specific context was dissociation. He mentioned last session that he had been reluctant to discuss it because I got upset at certain terminology. And I was actually surprised that he didn't realize that he could now talk about that with me without me getting mad at him. Because it would sound different now than it did before.
If that makes sense?
Hmmm... I suppose I did scare him not that long ago by putting my hands over my ears, saying "no no no no no no no", and bursting into hysterical sobs when he talked about something about vomit and him. But that's different. I didn't want that imagery in my mind.
Sigh. Maybe I'm fooling myself about my grown-ness. :)
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