Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 31, 2008, at 18:38:30
In reply to Re: cancer. » llurpsienoodle, posted by DAisym on December 31, 2008, at 18:34:21
> I'm sorry Lurpsie. I'd be terrified too. It is a role reversal no one should have to handle - moms are who we go to when bad things happen. I think you have to allow yourself to grieve some, and to cry some. And then you have to ask yourself, "what can I do that will help?" Help her, help yourself, help your family. And ask yourself honestly, what are you afraid of? I'd be afraid of having to take care of my dad - something I could not do.
Yep. you got it exactly right. My senile, demented Aspergerish, aggressive, insulting, vulgar, crude, nasty dad, with his various bodily infirmities requires near constant care.
Shudder. I'm not even gonna go there.
>But you might be afraid of something else. Whatever your fears are, try not to judge them. Acknowledge them - don't beat yourself up.
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> It won't be easy. Have faith though. And I agree, we are here.((((((DaisyM & babblers)))))))
crap, now I got some tears. Damn saline secretions. At least I'm not wearing eye makeup, well, none from today anyways.
-Ll
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