Posted by lucie lu on December 23, 2008, at 12:47:23
In reply to Thank you my supporters, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 22, 2008, at 10:58:15
To those who responded to this thread with concern, not to worry. There won't be any bloodshed ;) I do not consider this a big deal. I am a very poor target to insult, as such efforts for me tend to have very little impact or meaning. So I am sorry not to be responding if that was the intention and for not rising to the occasion, if there is one.
I taught for many years. As such I have dealt with many things, including teachers' names written in the boys/girls bathrooms with colorfully descriptive phrases, the equivalents of frogs left in the top drawers, and yes, even coded notes and messages. I do not intend to decode any such messages - didn't then and won't now - nor have I any interest in doing so. It really is such a small blip on my radar screen, especially in comparison to things that are happening in my own life right now as well as those of people I care most about. It is a difficult time of year for so many.
4S, you asked me a question and I will try to answer it. In my mind, there is a clear distinction between a person and a person's behavior. My comments in the admin post you referred to are clearly, I think, aimed at the behavior that was being discussed. I do apologize for the strong language; anyone who reads my posts will recognize that that is hardly the way I usually express myself. I was shocked and angered, my language reflected that, but I should not have let my emotional response dictate how I behaved. That demeaned me and I wish I had not written it, not just for you but for myself.
My comment in this current thread was that many or most of us have feelings or responses of sympathy for your situation and your emotional pain. And in another post on the admin board, I expressed sympathy that you were having a tough time and also expressed anger at your T for causing you such pain. I expressed support for you in that he clearly did wrong by you and you experienced a great deal of pain as a result. If I remember correctly, I think I said I thought he should be "disbarred." My feelings expressed then were about you, not your behavior. They were in support of you, at least by my definition; not your behavior.
The other point I'd like to make again is that that admin thread was not all about you. There actually were some fundamental issues being discussed. I feel strongly about how I experience Babble, and I expressed those thoughts and feelings throughout that thread.I hope that I've made my feelings and positions clear in response to your above post to me. I think there is little more for me to say on the subject, as I think I've pretty much said it all on admin. There are other things, and people, on Babble that I also want to pay attention to right now; as far as I'm concerned this matter is closed.
I hope you find some peace, 4S. May 2009 be a better year for you.
Lucie
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