Posted by B2chica on December 18, 2008, at 8:40:06
In reply to Re: (trigger) out of nowhere comes a sadness that » LadyBug, posted by rskontos on December 13, 2008, at 14:29:57
> you are so right it is so easy now for me to go from dry-eyed to cry-baby state in zero to full out in nano-seconds. That is why I feel like a mess and even when I am calm I know that it is a lie because I can unravel quickly these days.
this might sound bad but what you describe above is Actually a GREAT sign of progress in your therapy! i've been there and for someone like me who has NEVER been a crier..it was REALLY hard to get used to or accept or deal with. but my T has worked with me and made her 'space' such a safe place for me that now i'm able to do 'most' of my breakdowns (if you will) in her office.
i think that's the next step for you.
right now things are going to seem like they are out of control and you might feel like an emotional wreck! but when things have been bottled up for SOOOO many years when they come out they sort of explode...once it starts to flow though, now you can start to shape where its safe to do it and when...(this may take a long time to accomplish) for me it was probably d@mn near a year.
well the first year i dealt with my memories and flashbacks, and once i met my 'now' T. i had a year to 'get to know her', then since i had already delt with the initial memories, i could focus more on dealing with the emotions.but since you dont have to worry about switching T's inbetween it could be sooner for you.
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remember dear one this took many years to happen to you so it can't just be done with a few months in therapy. it all takes its sweet (slow) time. kinda like molasses at times :~)BUT again this is Great Progress. which proves you are moving FORWARD ok? this is all good.
just remember to be kind of gentle to yourself while you are going through all of this.
and PLEASE don't leave. keep posting. even if it's not about 'topic'. it can be about weather for all it matters. just keep giving voice to yourself.
ly dearly
b2c.
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