Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 6, 2008, at 22:25:14
In reply to Re: I am puzzled » muffled, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 6, 2008, at 22:05:16
don't talk down to my kids because they are kids. I support their emotional needs, but I believe those needs are not "young needs" so I treat them with mutual respect, not as an older person talking to a younger one. I didn't use baby language either, to talk to them, even when they were very young. Yes, I hugged them when they were upset and talked to them gently, but I would do that with anyone no matter what age.
So when says that they need someone to relate to them at a certain ego state age, it can mean something different to each of us. Plus I think there is an "expectant" way for one to talk to a child, that is truly a myth. Not all parents do this, and they are still very good parents. So I wonder how much a DID client expects from a T, has a lot to do with their beliefs of how a parent should be, it could be misguided.
We have all grown up with different culture standards of parenting, and one isn't better than another one. So there are no certain ways to parent, and the way a T talks to a client in a DID regression, can differ so much from client to client, from T to T. There is no standard. So if a T doesn't understand your needs, it may not be just be because you are DID.
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