Posted by Recently on December 2, 2008, at 17:51:13
In reply to Re: Dealing with a blank slate T?, posted by Wittgensteinz on December 2, 2008, at 13:52:04
So I asked.
I intended to bring it up first thing, but I did not have the guts to do it initially (I also came to my T in crisis mode, which may account for my not asking before). Anyway, I managed to slip the question in midway into the hour, by discussing my old T a bit. So, she responded when I asked her what her orientation is. It's psychodynamic, as predicted. Though she didn't really elaborate... I also then asked her if she wouldn't mind answering my questions about herself if I had any. She said that therapy was about me primarily, but she would be happy to answer any questions I might have. So I guess that's as good of a response as I could hope for.
The points you make are well-taken, to a certain extent I think I have conflated self-disclosure and general 'warmth.' My T is very warm and compassionate. I guess I am struggling with the whole "you know EVERYTHING about me, I know NOTHING about you" dynamic of therapy. I guess what I truly need is compassion and understanding from a therapist and that's more important than self-disclosure. I think me and this T may be a good fit, generally, but time will tell I guess.
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