Posted by twinleaf on November 21, 2008, at 1:10:51
In reply to Re: follow-up..... » twinleaf, posted by lucie lu on November 20, 2008, at 14:05:44
Thank you, lucie. I appreciate what you said so much. To be absolutely truthful, my sense of trust was quite shaky for a long time, but the "new" analyst went way out of his way to help me feel more secure. He would suddenly say things like, "it may be hard for you to believe this, but I really do want to see you" or he would unexpectedly say, after a break for vacation, "welcome back",. What was so nice about these happenings is that they were not pre-planned- they just popped out of his mouth, and so were really genuine and heartfelt.
And too, we have spent lots of time going over every tiny feeling of insecurity. When I bring up these fears, he always says something like, "no I haven't had any feelings like that about you, but I'm very glad you can talk about them with me". If I had gotten an analyst anywhere near a "blank slate", I would be a basket case!
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