Posted by Racer on November 17, 2008, at 23:19:10
In reply to Turning Point with Your T?, posted by JayMac on November 14, 2008, at 18:42:56
My breakthrough came when my T screwed up my appointment right before she left for vacation. We'd had to reschedule to a different day, since she was going to be gone on my regular day.
I called that morning to confirm the time, because I hadn't written it down. She told me that she didn't have me down at all, and was totally booked up. I said, "oh, well, that's OK, see you when you get back." (I think it reflects well on her that she said it was probably her mistake. She's good that way.)
The next day, I called and left a message on her machine, telling her it really hadn't been OK. I was very upset, and felt hurt by what happened. She actually called from vacation to apologize and offer any number of concessions to make it up to me -- coming in on her day off, etc -- but I opted to wait until my regular day. By then I realized what had happened: I had finally experienced full on transference with her...
We joke about it now, because up until then, I had a major wall up. That was the start of the wall coming down. (Only a couple of years into the process, of course... I've never said to be quick.)
Great topic, and congrats to you.
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