Posted by lucie lu on November 14, 2008, at 14:09:17
In reply to Re: rambling thoughts about attachment, posted by Phillipa on November 14, 2008, at 13:22:26
> I also have horrible abandonment issues even on babble. I actually hurt when don't think a poster likes me. Isn't that ridiculous? Mind says yes emotions say no. Love Phillipa
No that's not ridiculous Phillipa. We all put ourselves out for others to see when we post, and it can hurt to feel rejected. It's very understandable, so I side here with your emotional side :) Perhaps what your mind is saying is that it's a cruel fact of life that no matter how hard we try, not everyone will like us. We do need to find ways to cope with that, to let such rejection penetrate maybe a little but not so far into our psyches that the self is damaged or threatened. Here is a healthy example of our heads taking good care of our hearts.
Love, Lucie
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