Posted by Partlycloudy on November 10, 2008, at 6:45:23
In reply to Re: My T makes an inappropriate joke... » llurpsienoodle, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2008, at 21:03:31
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> What concerned me was the fact that you said that you wished you could find the feelings in session rather than after. Admittedly, time bomb reactions are common. But if you're feeling unable to access those things in session, it might bear considering whether his intellectual banter and humor contributes to that inability.I picked up on this post because one of the things we work on in my sessions is bringing the reaction to upsetting things closer to the actual event. It's not been uncommon for me to sail blithely through an event pretty much with my poker face in face, even as I'm dying inside, only to crawl into my car and bawl crying all the way home. The goal for us has been to start to shorten that genuine reaction time, not to eliminate the reaction or smooth it out. Interesting. Take my poker face, which is hiding how I'm really feeling, and retire that one as it doesn't belong any more. It served me better when I was a child and perhaps needed it to protect myself from being beaten, but it's no longer needed to come between me and my feelings.
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