Posted by antigua3 on November 6, 2008, at 17:53:11
In reply to My husband doesn't get it, posted by Partlycloudy on November 6, 2008, at 13:02:44
Mine doesn't get it, or I should say, refuses to get it. He wants no details, doesn't want to talk about it all. I think he's ashamed of me because he selfishly thinks it's a reflection on him. My T and pdoc say we have to bring him in to talk, but I'm not ready for that.
My husband has always been my rock, but not when it comes to this. It's a lonely path, except for friends on babble, because even friends can be so shocked and suddenly become "unavailable." This is something I didn't know--one of the devastating side effects for me w/CSA. The world doesn't want to hear about it.You have to be so very careful in deciding who to tell.
I don't know what else to say, except to reiterate what others have said: take it slow and take care of yourself. I know you're being flooded right now, and it's important to find a way to deal with just little parts at a time, and not to get overwhelmed. I've had some serious meltdowns from getting too far into it until I was better prepared for it.
You seem to be taking care of yourself. Please continue to do so, and don't punish yourself (I see a little of that too).
You have many, many friends here, so know that we're all here for you.
antigua
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