Posted by Geegee on October 26, 2008, at 16:19:37
In reply to Re: too curious for my own good, posted by Maria01 on October 26, 2008, at 13:07:42
I think that curiousity about a therapist is not at all uncommon, and it can be rich therapeutic material. For that reason, I think disclosing it, as well as all your feelings about it can be quite helpful. I'm of the opinion that any therapist these days who doesn't realize that they are "googleable" and are googled are a bit naive. For that reason, I don't believe that googling one's T is a breach of boundaries, because lots of folks google lots of other folks for a variety of reasons. Still, it can be hard to predict how the T will react, as some have perceived this as a boundary crossing or violation and reacted negatively. If your T is not so internet savvy, that may be more likely, but it's hard to predict for any one individual, so you'll have to use your best judgment.
Again my opinion here, but I think having the knowledge is one thing, but acting on it can be another. I think T's who react negatively to finding out they've been "googled" might be responding more to fears or concerns about what one might do with the info versus what more often is at play--the curiousity about and feelings for the T which led to the googling in the first place. And/or, they might just be caught off guard and feel a bit embarrassed that they didn't think of this before if it's the first time anyone has told them.
Sorry for so long...at any rate, it's perfectly normal, and I hope your T is able to hear it and process it with you, should you choose to disclose it, in a way that's ultimately helpful.
Good luck.
gg
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