Posted by rskontos on October 21, 2008, at 10:38:56
In reply to unanswerable questions, posted by happyflower on October 21, 2008, at 1:33:58
HF,
In pondering your question, I am thinking about the bitter divorce my middle sister is going through. Her husband is Borderline Personality but he is cruel and twice held a gun to her head and her youngest son. Now was he born this way? He was adopted as an infant and far as we know no mistreatment by his adopted parents. Is this genetics or environment? Who the heck knows. I think like Seldom there is good and evil. I believe it exits within everyone in degrees. We all can have evil or bad thoughts but do we act upon them no. we learn to modify our behaviors. But when I say evil or bad, I mean like wanting to bump into a car in front of you that is going slow when you are in a hurry. Not like my BIL soon to be ex. Not like your mother or mine. Not like so many families that have one or both parents who just don't seem to care about the children they brought into the world. Or those people that go out and hurt others that are strangers. Or those that go out and rob, steal or kill. It just makes no sense.
If you believe in God you would say it is Free Will. If you don't, you say it is Human Nature. It is something that is pervasive throughout our human history though.
Your oldT hurt you. That is hard to understand. Especially when you when to him for therapy. To heal from already being traumatized from your childhood. He added insult to injury. I agree with Seldom you won't forget it. You may not ever forgive it. You will eventually move on but it has changed you because it was an experience you had. All experiences good and bad changes us. It is up to us how. Good luck sweetie in getting some peace. Unfortunately sometimes (well most times)getting that peace is up to us. Hard as it might seem to be to reach.
rsk
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