Posted by rskontos on October 18, 2008, at 16:54:19
In reply to Re: Too much disclosure is not a good thing, posted by lemonaide on October 18, 2008, at 13:10:57
Lemonaide
I agree about disclosure. I know very little about my T. I am glad. I would have to be responsible for him to know more. To see he as more than a T would add to much for me. I only recently found out that he had therapy and thinks all t's need to have it to be good t's. But he did not volunteer this information. He rarely does I have to ask. If I ask he answers. I think I set most of the boundaries. No touching, no hugs, no real talking about what he thinks about me but sometimes he does this anyway and I am surprised. THis usually works unless again I go in and say I can't get past...........and then he will take the lead and get the conversation flowing to help me see whatever he thinks I need. I do know his wife is his soul mate only because I said I did not think I believed in them and I asked him if he did and he said yes. I then said is your wife your soulmate and he said yes, I said oh. then conversation ended.
I try to stay in therapy in the intellectual zone. I hate getting emotional or emo as my children say. He respects that. It works except if I do get emotional. Then and only then do I question his ways. Funny isn't it how we go back and forth.
If a T ever said to me what your did about a vagina sucker I might punch him or just stare and get up and leave. AND never come back!!!!!! Sex talk would send me running or even hints.
I am so sorry you got such a prick for a t the first time around. Can I say prick. Well if not I am sorry for bad language but he was and we should call like we see it.
Glad you found a new T that is a keeper.
rsk
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