Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 10, 2008, at 8:58:03
In reply to Next Wed is my termination day with my therapist, posted by lemonaide on October 10, 2008, at 7:40:49
My feeling is that you should go - seeing him one last time might feel very difficult and perhaps a bit risky (i.e. potential for it not to go as you would like) but I think it's the best way to provide closure. This way there is a dialogue, rather than just sending a letter and perhaps never receiving acknowledgment/a reply.
If you are afraid how it will come out, how to say it, why not write that letter and take it and read it to him? Then you get to say what you need to but you make sure he hears it and you can talk about it afterwards. When I've had very difficult/uncomfortable things to tell my T, I've written it down and just read it to him aloud. It's hard but it keeps things on track and ensures I say what I need to. I know your situation is different as this is your last meeting with this T.
I hope you get the closure you need. I'm sure your new T will help you process this too. As for your old T (old geazer T, not dirty sleazer T!), it seems he's given you a lot of positive things but in some ways failed to give you the validation you need - and that's quite a pity given the reasons you started seeing him - namely to process the relationship with your ex-T. Could it be positive in some way that things have gone as they have i.e. him no longer being fit to carry out therapy with you - at least now you are seeing a T with very firm boundaries who can hopefully validate your earlier experiences and get you through the feelings associated with them?
Witti
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